Are you one of those twin moms who don't like the twin nick names?
Twinkies, Twinkers, Twinces, Twincesses..etc etc.
I am not sure what it is about the nicknames they just make me cringe. No offense to anyone who uses these nick names for their twins. I just don't like them. I guess it is kind of like not liking banana flavored popscicles or banana flavored candy. They taste utterly disgusting to me. I hated it when I was a child and my mom would buy banana flavored popscicles. I felt slighted. I would not eat them even if I was desperate for a popscicle. I usually froze some orange juice on those occasions. I guess she just really liked banana popscicles and maybe I was being naughty that week ro something. :)
Which brings me to thinking more into twinisms. Why do people have such a strange stigma about twins. When they see you in public they say things like.. "Oh dear I feel terrible for you" or "Wow do you have your hands full", I hear a lot of "I was so afraid I was going to have twins, so glad I did not:" and " Oh look out double trouble". Not to forget the "I have a baby and a toddler, it is just like having twins but worse" or My 1 year old, 3 year old, and 5 year old are more difficult than having twins". Been there done that honey, it is not the same. You see I have an advantage over many twin moms. I was a singleton mom x3. I have a child who is 14 and is 2.5 years older than my 2nd child who is 11 1/2...who in turn is 15 months older than my 3rd child who is 10. I was also a single mom for 7+ years. I lost my first husband in an auto related accident and was left at 25 years old with a 15 month old, a 2 year old, and a 5 year old who just started Kindergarten 2 weeks before. I had 3 kids very close in age....2 of which were even more close in age. I had an 8+ year break from having children and then my current husband and I decided to have one child, had a loss, and then had twins. Wow TWINS!! They are 2 now. 4/21/08 (32 weekers)
So I have really been there and done that. I can vouch for ALL twin moms far and wide.
Having children close in age is NOTHING AT ALL LIKE HAVING TWINS.
I PROMISE YOU THIS 1000x OVER!!!
I know most people just are trying to make conversation when they see someone with twins but why all the negativity? Yes twins is a bit tougher than one but it is not like all twin mosm have been given a lifetime of punishment. Having twins is not a bad thing. It should not be feared, and when you tell a twin mom you feel bad for her or it is better her than you.... that is just plain ignorant and rude.
I hope one day things change and moms who do not have twins no longer see twins as a punishment.Twins are tough and all but are such a great blessing and what a wonderful experience for a mom!
I will leave you with some pics....yes this is our living room and yes these toys are only my twins toys. I do not run a daycare..and it is only half the room. Daddy was napping so I did not take pics of the other half of the room which contains the big playskool tent, the ride on's, and the bouce on's. :)