I noticed that not only are my twins a handful recently, but other Mothers of newly two year old twins seem to be dealing with the same issues. WOW, you double bundles of cuteness can really put Mama to work!!
I see a lot of the same posts online from other twin moms with two year olds. Then I realize HOLY COW that happens here too!!
I am trying to be objective, observant, and optimistic at the same time. So far, mostly so good.
They are SO BUSY, they need to go out every day and play with other kids or it is nothing but madness and terror!!
I wonder if it is because there are two of them. What makes these twins tick? I had singletons close in age and they were not this way.
Singletons don't seem to be quite like this. They have to get out of the house and be outdoors or somewhere other than inside the house every morning.
It really can be exhausting though. I seriously just go go go til' I am completely out of steam and then I have to collapse for a day and let Daddy take them out in the yard and wear them out.
I take them on a 2-3 our playdate every morning. They seem to be best off if we grab some "on the go" breakfast, healthy snacks, juice, etc. We meet up with our playgroup 7 days a week now.
WHY?
Not because I have that much energy, surely not.
Not because I have a growing need to socialize with other Moms daily
Not because I am bored to tears
Why then?
BECAUSE THEY GO APESH*T mad if I do not take them for that outing.
We start stripping, going potty on the floor, throwing food, throwing tantrums, biting, hitting, kicking, pushing, slapping, screaming, messing up everything, tossing toys from here to kingdom come, and fighting like crazy.
If I do this morning playdate, they come home and literally are cool little easy-going sweeties for the rest of the day. Well, mostly.
I have found that they need to graze all day. If they get hungry or thirsty and the food is not already within arms reach to snack and drink...they beat the living daylights out of one another.
They will just haul off and start toddler smackdown.
I try to be very observant of these little munchkins. They are nothing like singletons. Seriously a twins brain must work so much differently than a singleton.
Thank goodness Daddy's work schedule allows time for him to take over and entertain a few times a month. I Will go go go until that one morning I get up and feel like I am 104 instead of 34. So that day is my "siesta" day.
For those with no Daddy available in the morning for the playdate.....you will have to find a way to work around it or get a lot of extra sleep.
Maybe have an "in home" playdate on that day.
They need to interact with other kids or they really act out badly.
What's funny is that half of the time they do not even really play with the other kids..they just like to be with them.
If you are not in a playgroup start one or go to meetup.com and for the love of your sanity..find one!!
Nothing on meetup? try yahoo groups.
I know that all kids need to socialize and they all need activities and playtime but twins really seem to be so much different. It's like there is no option to avoid it.
So, Moms of two year old twins..... keep the snacks coming the juice/water/milk cups filled and go on playdates every morning....or as much as humanly possibly.
OH and I also noticed if my twins toys get too messy they act out more too.
The attitudes really change when the toys are all nice and organized!!
my 2 are only 14 months but ever since around 8 months if we wernt out and about in the day they would scream (when younger) and now if we are not i get the exact same behavoir your describing hopefully as they get older i will learnhow to deal with it a bit better lol
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